Recently, a female netizen posted that at first her husband went fishing on weekends, but now it has developed to go fishing every day, and she doesn't care about family affairs, in addition to upgrading her fishing equipment, she is even preparing to go abroad to fish, she is very distressed and tired. The reporter saw that many people in the comments said that there are many people around them who are addicted to fishing, who go fishing on weekends and forget the time when they go fishing.
Why do men love fishing? And why is it easy to "get trapped"? The reporter interviewed Chen Zhilin, a doctor of psychology from University College London and a chartered consulting psychologist of the British Psychological Society.
Yangtze Evening News/Purple Cow News reporter Kong Xiaoping
How "crazy" are the men for fishing
No matter how busy you are, you have to go fishing for a few hours at night
Over the years, a group of old men who like fishing in Nanjing have been very popular, and they have been on the hot search for a while. Every morning at 6 o'clock, when many young people are still asleep, the old man with a large bag has been running wildly in the subway station, to go to the suburban pond dozens of kilometers away to fish, S9 is also nicknamed "fishing train" by Nanjing netizens, and has become a special line for fishing masters.
Retired masters may go fishing in the suburbs to pass the time, but if you go to Nanjing's big and small water on the weekend, you will find that the fishing community is very large. The reporter has seen it on the Qinhuai River outside Jiangning, and there is a large group of fishing friends by the river during the day, and at night there are a dozen small lights, which is very spectacular.
Under the post on the Internet complaining about her husband's fishing, there are many people who do not understand the phenomenon of "men growing on the pondside". More people complained about their loved ones' addiction to fishing: fishing with their fishing friends in every challenging fishing place in the city - starting to change cars, buying equipment - going fishing in other cities. Some netizens said that her husband was very busy and hard at work during the day, but even if he was busy until late, he would have to fish for a few hours at night, even all night, and then go to work the next day.
The reporter saw that a male netizen posted "Fishing Addiction? From the history of blood and tears of a fisherman", the article said that recently, I can't wait to go fishing every day, and when I think calmly, I seem to be addicted to fishing, and I begin to recall how I got to this point: I once experienced the whole process of fishing because of my work, and caught my first fish; After I went back, I began to reminisce about the process of catching the fish, the feeling of pulling with the fish, and the expectation of every time I cast the rod, and I thought "tsk!" It's kind of interesting"; Try fishing again, compared to the first time, it is a little difficult to catch fish, and I also began to know some fishing spots and bait; Started to study equipment skills and buy equipment, thinking that next time I will definitely catch a fish and get soft, I see a variety of fishing videos on social platforms, and I have the urge to swing a rod; Gradually serious, I can't get up from work at 10 o'clock in the morning, but the alarm clock for fishing at 7 o'clock does not need to be set. Then he went crazy, in order to fish smoothly, began to pull people into the pit, encountered inconvenient transportation began to pull friends with cars into the pit, from the number of fish to the type, size, scarcity of fish, and so on and then look back, has been "terminally ill". The reporter noticed that the purpose of his post was to win a fishing rod worth <>,<> yuan, and it seems that he has not turned back on this road.
Why men love fishing
It has to do with the hunting psychology engraved in the DNA
With a rod in hand, the man seems to have left all his identities behind and forgotten all his troubles. Chen Zhilin, a psychological expert, told reporters that fishing, a bit like a man hunting in ancient times, when a fish is hooked, it is like the prey is caught in the hand, awakening the hunting psychology in the man's DNA.
He told reporters that from a psychological point of view, if you understand fishing, first, you may encounter various challenges in the process of fishing, such as bad weather, etc., when you overcome these difficulties and successfully catch fish, a sense of accomplishment arises spontaneously.
Second, fishing satisfies their curiosity and spirit of exploration. In the process of fishing, you never know what kind of fish will be hooked in the next second, and every time you catch a fish that you don't expect, it will make people feel excited and satisfied.
Third, it can promote the secretion of endorphins. The moment the fish is hooked, the human body secretes endorphins, which make people feel happy and excited. This physiological response can make you strongly dependent on fishing.
Fourth, it can relax and reduce stress, especially at the water's edge, people can feel the tranquility and beauty of nature, thereby reducing stress and improving mood.
In addition, Chen Zhilin also said that there is a "pseudo-autologous" in psychology, which refers to the fact that some children constantly develop a shell to respond to the outside world in order to meet the needs of their parents, which is their childhood survival mode. The cost of this is to suppress real needs and ideas. When the false self is constantly rewarded, this shell slowly replaces the real self, and after adulthood, this pattern continues to continue, which often leads to inner tears and feelings of emptiness.
Take fishing as an example, preparing fishing gear, throwing the rod into the water, observing the fish floating, controlling the body when the fish is hooked, manipulating the fishing rod, and finally collecting the fish into the net, this series of processes is the perfect combination of logic, experience and feeling.
Chen Zhilin analysis said that in this whole process, people's ideas can be continuously verified and fed back through reality, and the most important thing is that this is the direct contact and interaction between the real self and reality, and there is no shell in the middle to isolate, "This smooth and transparent feeling often has a healing effect, with the real self to face the outside world, and the feedback from the outside world also goes straight to the heart." This is one of the deep reasons why fishing can be addictive, and that is that in the process, life is real and alive. ”
Why Fishing Develops to the "Top"
"Variable rewards" lead to "uncertainty addiction"
Chen Zhilin said that adults take fishing as a hobby, similar to minors addicted to video games, both of which are addicted to uncertainty.
Specifically, uncertainty addiction is one aspect of human nature, and many entertainment activities contain the basic elements of uncertainty. In fiction writing, uncertainty is called suspense; In the creation of short drama videos, uncertainty is called reversal; Video games can be said to be the sum of uncertainty, not only reflected in the uncertainty of winning or losing the game, but also in the design of the player's incentive mechanism, which has a saying in product design - "changeable rewards", "and fishing is also full of uncertainty, whether there are fish, big fish or small fish, are uncertain." ”
All uncertainty addictions have one thing in common: instant gratification or gap. Chen Zhilin said that "immediate" means that the results can come out immediately, whether there are fish or not, whether the game is won or lost, are all the results that come out immediately, and there is no need to wait. In addition, in the game, the player's expectation is naturally to win, and when he wins, he is satisfied, and he is happy. As a result, if you lose, you will not be happy, and if you are not reconciled, you will start a new game... So no matter whether the game wins or loses, the addicted player will continue, for fishing, there is a fish bite to be satisfied, and there is a gap if there is no movement for a long time; When the rod is drawn, the fish will be happy when it is big, and there will be a gap when the fish is small.
At the same time, psychology also believes that behaviors that make you extraordinarily happy, doubling or exceeding happiness are addictive. Once the person is stressed in life, work or relationships, they are more willing to devote themselves to things that make them addictive, such as fishing and playing games, which can give them psychological comfort and a sense of accomplishment.
In addition, in view of some people's fishing to escape life, including work pressure, life pressure, family conflicts, etc., Chen Zhilin said that some men are reluctant to confide in their troubles, but just hide in their hearts, and they are more likely to enter the "emotional cave period", that is, they need a quiet environment, empty themselves, and don't think about anything. And fishing is easy to be regarded by men as a "love" to divert negative emotions and seek psychological sustenance. Moreover, compared to other recreational sports, fishing has a unique aspect, such as fishing does not require seniority, but only a little luck.
How to prevent addiction
Build a more comfortable relationship with the "addiction".
Although a healthy lifestyle is recommended for everyone to go to sports and leisure and go into nature more, after seeing a lot of addiction to fishing, some netizens pointed out that if anything reaches the point of obsession, it is not simply liking, but "plaything demoralization".
In this regard, Chen Zhilin believes that there is arbitrariness, indulgence and sensuality in people's self-perception. In many cases, people have to control and restrain themselves, and in management, we must learn to do extension and expansion, not just simply stop and rough removal, we should expand and add items, and gradually transfer.
Successful addiction rehabilitation is not to make addiction a taboo, but to build a more comfortable relationship with addiction. The taboo is by no means freedom, the real freedom is: the "addiction" no longer controls you, one thing to do or not to do, to speak of your own will.
Take fishing as an example, it is just entertainment in life, family and relatives are the objects we rely on and care about, this is the method of quitting fishing by personal comprehension, that is to say, from the right perspective to look at the importance of the two, adjust the personal focus, change the attitude and view of life, put the important in the first place, and put the entertainment at the end. (Yangtze Evening News)